Inner Wisdom & Creativity Blog

The only person we are truly responsible for in our lives is ourselves. Even if we have children, we are just their guides because they are truly their own little selves who have come forth for their very specific and personal reasons.

What our husbands, wives, children, friends or colleagues do is nothing to do with us…really. Our only business is what we are doing. This may mean reflecting on how we react to what those other people do. We might not like what that person is doing. We might judge them in particular ways, put them in certain boxes and assign specific attitudes and beliefs to them, which determines how we treat them, but it’s still OUR stuff.

All those attitudes, beliefs and judgements are reflecting something WE have going on within us. So ask yourself what is it that I’m feeling or thinking about this person or this situation that is leading me to feel this way? Release the other person from the burden of your crap. They have their own selves to look after and take responsibility for.

All of this is part of becoming more conscious about who you are and taking responsibility for yourself. Turning a blind eye to your negative qualities doesn’t get you far. It just leaves you feeling pissed off at a lot of things. You don’t feel good and the only one to change that is you.

When you get right down to the essence of all this, it’s about being responsible for your energy, for noticing when you feel bad about ANYTHING and understanding that it is a gift that you are aware that you feel bad because you can examine what you are thinking and how you are looking at something, in order to realise where you might be out of whack.

All is good. When it feels like it isn’t, we have something going on within us that’s not seeing the goodness. It’s got nothing to do with the person who is making you angry, frustated, hurt, or sad. Those feelings are your responsibility.

It’s a lot of responsibility to have, isn’t it? But understanding this can deeply affect your life for the positive because it puts your happiness where it should be…

in YOUR hands.

I saw clearly today how each of us is a light in the centre of the Universe…we each represent the Universe as it revolves around us. It’s like we are all having the ‘Universe’ experience, all from our own perspective. We truly are each the centre of the Universe (wrap your head around THAT one!).

Then, I understood that the Universe is neutral. There is no good or bad, right or wrong in the Universe. The Universe encompasses ALL things, it excludes NOTHING, and those things in and of themselves are neutral. They simply are what they are.

The variable is us. We ACTIVATE things in our experience by thinking about them. We tend to either think of things as good or bad, right or wrong, and this determines how we experience those things.

In that regard, we also have ultimate control over our personal experience in life. All that is required is that we take notice of our thoughts and examine them. When we shine our conscious light on something, we can start to question if our thought or belief about it is really true. What is true makes us feel open, light, flowing and good.

When we feel bad, we are restricting our energy, we are shutting ourselves down in some way and feeling conflict, resitance, pain and fear. Examine any thought or belief that makes you feel that way and ask if it is really the truth. Ask “is this how Source sees this?” and use your inner knowing to feel for the answer.

This is how you free yourself from all the pain, fear, suffering and stuck-ness in your life.

If you’re anything like me, you envision those big, wonderful things you want to have or experience in your life and no matter what you do, those things still feel lightyears away. Are you with me?

In your day-to-day life, not much changes.

What’s the mis-match here?

What’s the conflict between where you currently are, and where you want to be?

Well, let’s consider that if we focus on that end result or outcome, we are definitely going to see how far we have to go to get to that place. It can leave us feeling disheartened and frustrated.

We can’t just jump from A to Z. We have to move from A to B to C to D…and so on.

This is about taking the next logical step in your life, that leads you to a better feeling place.

So here’s the magic pill (if such a thing exists)…

By all means have your big dreams, BUT, you are living your life TODAY and this is where you are currently at.

Think about what you do each day and ask yourself:
What can I do to improve my daily life right now?
How can I play a bit more?
How can I have a bit more fun?
What can I release from my life today?
What can I bring into my life?

In most cases we’re not talking ground-breaking changes, but small, effective and real-time changes that make some sort of improvement that makes us feel a bit better. What can you change right now that will improve your life?

Get real about it…maybe it’s time to give up that additional commitment that always feels like a chore to you? Maybe you can find a way to get all your mundane, regular tasks done on a single day, so you get it all done at once, like the grocery shopping and bill paying? Maybe you can declutter that one cupboard or corner of a room today?

Maybe you can meet your friend for a coffee and enjoy their company, laugh a bit and forget about all those “shoulds” that you’re usually focused on?

Perhaps you can sign up for that class that you’ve always wanted to do…no more excuses.

Happy, playful baby steps

We get overwhelmed when we focus on the big goal and our feeling of distance between now and then can keep us stuck where we are.

Instead, our intention should be movement, even baby steps, towards our bigger goal. And what is our bigger goal anyway?

It’s about having, doing or being something that makes us feel good!

Focus on that feeling and bring THAT into your daily life and before you know it, that big elusive goal (or something even better!) will be right in front of you!

Over on Women’s Wisdom Web I’ve been sharing my inner wisdom relating to “simple truths”. There’s a discussion thread in the Guidance from Donna group, currently being discussed by me, myself and I (LOL) about releasing fears, struggles and old mindsets so we can move through our lives, challenges and all, with more awareness that we are really experiencing opportunities – opportunities to change direction, to clarify more deeply what we want, to awaken to more awareness within ourselves through the process. Most of all, we are exploring the truth that “all is well”, always, no matter what.

Read the whole “discussion” here and add your thoughts (if only to save me from talking to myself!!)

Here’s a quote from the discussion…

There is FREEDOM to be discovered within you and your life. If you were to release every single expectation you feel that others have of you, including family, friends, employers, your community, the government, and even spirit itself, how would that feel? Right now, imagine there being absolutely no expectations of you. You are FREE. No-one else matters – their thoughts, beliefs and attitudes – that’s all their stuff. It’s not your stuff. You are free to do anything at all in any moment…to express yourself however you like…to be, do and have whatever your heart desires. This is how it is supposed to be.

Simplicity or complexity?